We are afraid to care too much; for fear that the other person does not care at all… Eleanor Roosevelt
Our lives revolve around the relations that we have inherited by birth as well as the ones that we made after birth and also they continue after we rest in peace i.e. death. Isn’t it so ironical that throughout our life we struggle hard to maintain our relationships and yet we cannot achieve that perfect balance in our relations, be it personal or professional? The reasons for this may be numerous, however, to make the long story short one would find that most of the reasons are so common and at times quite foolish on our part that we find it funny when we sit down and think about those silly reasons which become the very cause for turning our relationships sour.
It’s a fact that all of us are living a fast-paced life where we get extremely busy accumulating financial assets and physical comforts. So lost have we got in this race to achieve something that we hardly find time to sit back and think as to where our relationships are heading to.
Our craze for materialism has made us forget that material belongings are devoid of meaning if there is no peace or happiness within. Today we have reached a stage where instead of humans; we have made smart gadgets, material belongings & social status as our companions. We are gradually getting transformed into machines with no heart, feelings or emotions. As a result, our relationships have become strained. So, always nurture your relationships & handle them with utmost care because it’s too painful an experience when a person we know suddenly becomes a person we knew.
We all fail to understand a fact that whether its friendship or relationship, all bonds are built on trust, without it we won’t achieve anything. Hence we should try our best to remain safe from a dreadful habit called assumption which creates mistrust leading to suspicion, anger, enmity & finally separation. We should also refrain from playing the blame game that’s the biggest hindrance in maintaining good relations.
It is normal for all of us to blame the opposite party in case of a failed relationship because nobody would ever take responsibility on the self, however, we should remember that when we point one finger at someone, the other three are pointing at us, so it is always better to take personal responsibility and accept our own folly rather than create an environment of hatred for each other.
A relationship is like a house when a light bulb burns out; do we go and buy a new house? Not really, we fix the bulb and move on. Same applies to our relationships too, we keep on nursing our ego’s to such an extent that it leads to misunderstanding creating a heavy atmosphere, hence we should realize that having an easy & cooperative nature towards everyone would help us to be flexible and humble.
An easy person would get along with everyone and become an instrument in creating harmonious relationships. We also forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. Mistakes can be overlooked but the actions performed in anger will bother us forever. Therefore we should always give value to our relationships & should make an effort to nurture them, rather than losing them on trivial matters. Supreme Almighty has the capacity to fulfil all relationships with us. Hence, when we experience the relations of a father, teacher, preceptor, companion and friend with Him, then it becomes easy to give love to all other human beings and leads us to the understanding that we are all children of the same father and need to take care of everyone around us.
Lastly, we should not forget that a real relationship has trust, faith, tears, fights, pain, arguments, patience, secrets, jealousy and over an all LOVE. So, love all and get loved in return by all. This is the key to positive and peaceful living.