People’s minds are changed through observation and not through argument – Will Rogers
There is a famous saying “Two wrongs don’t make a right”, meaning it is not right to do something bad to someone just because they did something bad to you. In our day to day life we end up doing many things that are wrong, but still, we justify it by argument.
The argument has always been a very powerful self-defence tool for people for ages. But one must know an important fact that behind every argument that we do, lies our ignorance towards truth and sometimes deceiving self by knowing the truth, hence the best way to sort things out is through dialogues & healthy discussions. The beautiful part of the dialogue is that it’s a mutual exploration for reaching towards an amicable resolution with an open exchange of views as compared to an argument which leads to a battle of opinions.
In dialogue, there is much more listening than talking, and in an argument there is war! A dialogue is possible only when two parties collaborate to uncover deeper wisdom and co-create a new understanding with a positive attitude.
We all argue in our day to day life, coz we have an opinion on almost everything based on our beliefs, more so, when we see the beliefs of others as a personal threat, we either start defending or attacking, creating an environment of fear & aggression. There are many who are always armed with their opinions prepared to defend their beliefs, and ready to do battle. The best way to avoid an argument with such kind of people is to first support their beliefs positively and make them feel happy from inside & then after some time make them realize their mistake with utmost love & care.
Many of us have experienced that if we do not have an opinion about important issues, then we are considered to be weak & conciliatory. But! we must not forget, that in our opinion is in defence of a position or against someone else’s opinion, then it might result in a huge conflict that might lead to a war-like situation. History had shown that at the root of the majority of the wars fought were differences of opinion & a clash of beliefs.
Hence, it takes a lot of courage to have a point of view, and yet be receptive to others to the extent that you are prepared to shift your contention! This shows that you are flexible and you acknowledge that there are many other ways of looking at a situation, it also says that you have the humility to learn from others points of view.
However to possess such courage, one needs to be enlightened with spiritual powers, for, it is an enlightened soul that moves from an argument to a discussion to a dialogue, a process that is driven not by just the need, but by a genuine curiosity alongside with the intention to understand others to create a peaceful & harmonious environment.